But there are those rare moments when I think about trying again for a girl. Growing up, I always imagined myself having a girl. But fate dealt me another hand. And I love that hand. But sometimes I think about the relationship that I have with my mother and I get a little sad thinking that I will never have that with my daughter. Although it doesn't mean I can't have just as close of a relationship with my boys.
The boys are just getting old enough that they are starting to play with each other and don't need us every moment of the day and that feels GREAT! I love the thought of being able to have more time with my husband again and the thought of going on vacation without diapers (hopefully soon!). The four of us just fit so well together like a four piece puzzle. We play and laugh and love each other. Having a one-on-one ratio of parent to child seems to just work and I don't know if another child would throw off that beautiful balance.
For now, I am going to enjoy the life I have and not think too much about the "ifs" and the "buts."
For now, I am going to enjoy the life I have and not think too much about the "ifs" and the "buts."
5 comments:
I think we always wonder what it would be like "if"... But I think you have the right attitude. If this works and makes you happy - then you can't worry about the what ifs. Plus - you could get pregnant and have a third boy, so trying for a girl may be futile. AND you never know what your children will be like. You may find that one of your boys is close to you the way you assume a girl would be. You have a great family - and it's always nice to have the option of adding to it if that's what you decide.
I have two boys, and they are the best. My husband and I stay plenty busy with them, but I am still leaving my mind open to the possibility of a third child. I had such a close bond with my dad; I'd like for my husband to have that with a daughter. Not to mention all that cute girl stuff!
I feel like I've read this before... so confused.
I've always wanted a girl too... and got just that. I couldn't imagine having boys, but that's exactly what I want now. I hope our next is a boy lol... but either way we'll be happy. (and honestly I'm not looking fwd to hearing all the are you done's once we do have that boy because that isn't our goal lol)
Whatever you decide (try again or not) things will work out.
Sounds like travel without diapers is in your near future. I have one child and we are discussing another - I like the one to one ratio. I am a fellow all mediocre blogger checking in on ya.
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