I waited a long LONG time (my brother's speech at my rehearsal dinner had even a few more "long"s) to get married. And not by choice. I just didn't find anyone that I could even imagine spending the next six months with, let along the rest of my life! So when I did finally meet him, I wanted to spend most of my free time with him.
When my girlfriends talked about having a girls weekend, I didn't want to participate. I had had so many years of girls weekend, girls night outs and everything in between. I didn't want time away from my husband. I missed him even if we were apart for a few hours. He was my favorite person to hang out with and I just couldn't get enough time with him. We both worked full time and the hours of free time we had were so precious.
You may be wondering why I'm talking in the past tense. Has something terrible happened that has changed my mind about him? Has our bond weakened? Am I sick of him already?
The answer is no. I still love spending time with him and he's still my favorite person to be with but now we have children! Two boys to be exact. And their arrival has changed things. Our time is no longer just the two of us doing whatever we want, it's all about the children. And even though they are the love of our lives and bring us incredible joy, I just sometimes want to get away, if only for a few hours. Sometimes, I just want to have a few hours of fun girl talk (with two boys and a guys guy kind of husband there isn't much girl talk in our house)!
So now, if my friends want to do a girls night, I say yes without too much hesitation. And if there is a chance for a girls weekend, I'm all over it (even with the guilt of leaving my husband with two small boys)!!
Don't get me wrong, I still prefer a date night with my husband to most other outings but there's nothing like a good old fashion girls night out!
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I was never a boyfriend girl growing up - so I'm definitely in my element when I'm with girl friends. Luckily - my husband has become a very good friend as well, so I'm not missing out on much if I'm not with the girls. But he doesn't seem to find my pre-him stories nearly as amusing as my girl friends do. In fact, I have learned to censor quite a bit (a bit too late - but better late than never). I need the girls for good girltalk.
I hear ya! I love spending time with mi esposo. He is my bestest friend. But i also love spending time with my girl friends too, some of which are also my best friends. I think these different friendships/relationships "feed" different parts of me. They have different roots (e.g. some are deeper and stronger than others, more nuturing, etc...). They all help keep me grounded in some way though!
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